Why You Can Face 2018 with Confidence

It’s the most natural thing in the world to imagine the New Year will be even more rocky than the old year, when you’re in a “life sucks” state of mind.

If looking ahead with dread makes you feel more prepared for whatever may come in 2018, go for it. Plenty of people prefer to expect the worst, in hopes of avoiding disappointment and the pain of dashed dreams.

Here’s the thing – As a wise man once said, “In life, you don’t get what you want. You get what you expect.” A self-fulfilling prophecy cuts both ways.

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Expect the worst, and you very often get it. Expect the best, and you very often get it.

So, if you prefer to face 2018 with confidence instead of fear, here are some tips to help you make it happen.

Why faith in yourself is justified

  • Did you start something new in 2017?
  • Did you end something that was draining your energy?
  • Did you reach a goal?
  • Did you decide to let someone or something go?
  • Did you jump on an opportunity and ride it out?
  • Did you dodge a bullet?
  • Did you forgive someone?
  • Did you let yourself off the hook from doing something you never wanted to do?
  • Did you give yourself permission to succeed?
  • Did you give yourself permission to fail?
  • Did you make a difference in someone’s life?
  • Did you do something super-fun?

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Whatever happened last year, you have acquired priceless information about what does and does not work for you. About what matters to you, and what doesn’t. About what you value, and what you hold cheap.

This knowledge equips you to make even smarter choices in 2018.

So, now what?

Action Steps

  1. Note your wins. Write down your accomplishments from the past year: the gains; the insights; the healing… The letting go of something unwanted; the overcoming of a challenge; the patient endurance of something that had to be endured; the surrender of the illusion of control over someone or something you can never, ever control.
  2. Savor your victories. Take a moment to re-live and savor the excitement, the relief, or the triumph you felt after each experience. Sometimes, simply surviving an ordeal counts as a victory … over circumstances, and over your own self-doubt.

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3. Recognize you have a lot to be proud of. Consider: Were there any accomplishments you felt sure you would never pull off? And yet, you did pull them off. Congratulations!

4. Light up your brain. Hold each of your shining accomplishments in your mind for a moment, one by one. Imagine gathering them into a glittering bouquet of brilliance.

5. You stepped up before, so you can do it again. Look upon this glowing garland as proof that in 2018, you will be able to be, do and have more than you can imagine right now … just as you did in 2017.

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6. Power it up. Picture yourself placing this light in your heart. Let it guide your steps as you walk into 2018 with confidence and joy.

7. Remember, you never walk alone. Whatever you do, whatever you choose … never think for a moment that you are doing it by yourself. Unseen forces come into play the moment you take action – creating momentum, generating opportunities and helping you over the hard places.

This year, consider praying to your Higher Power as your first response, rather than your last resort … and watch what happens.

There is genius, power and magic in you. Let it shine in the year to come, my dear!

What would you do if you knew you could not fail? Please share your thoughts in the box below. Thank you, and all the best to you!

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Video: 3 Ways to Deal with Grief over the Holidays

It’s natural to feel the loss of loved ones more sharply over the holidays.

And it can be hard to handle grief, which can show up as sadness, anger, loneliness, rage against the injustice of a loved one’s passing – even feeling heartsick about a loved one who has not yet passed, but soon will.

Here are some ideas that I hope will bring you a bit of comfort.

If your grief deepens into anguish or depression, please consider seeing your medical practitioner to eliminate the possibility of a physical condition causing some of your emotional turmoil.

If you’re thinking of harming yourself, please call 911 or a suicide hotline. You matter. You are needed. You are loved, even if you feel unloved right now.

Bless you, my dear! Peace be with you.

 

Video: 5 Ways to Dodge Debt Over the Holidays

If you tend to overspend on the holidays, check this out.

 

Video: 6 Ways to Sidestep Holiday Fatigue

Feeling too pooped out to party? Check this out!

If you were tired going into the holiday season, you may be running on fumes right now.

You are not alone.

Help is here:

If you want more support to survive the holidays, check this out.

In the meantime, wishing you a joyful holiday season, however you spend it.

Much love and many blessings to you!

5 Ways to Dodge Debt Over the Holidays

Try these tips if you’re dreading the mountain of holiday debt you’ll have to climb next month.

Here’s the bottom line:

No one is going to take you by the hand and say, “Hey, you’re spending more than you can afford. Are you sure you want to do this?”

So, if you want to avoid a hangover of holiday debt in January, it pays to pause for a moment before buying into beliefs like: “I have to buy these gifts, even though I can’t afford them.”

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If in doubt, remember this: You are allowed to consider your financial well-being when making out your holiday gift list. Your needs matter just as much as the needs of your loved ones.

Try these 5 tips if you’re dreading the mountain of holiday debt you’ll have to climb next month.

  1. Step back from sacrifice

If you’re low on cash, reconsider giving expensive gifts to those you love. 

Anyone who truly loves you would never dream of asking you to give up necessities so they can have luxuries. Only people who are out for themselves would do that.

Would you like your Higher Power to show you all the other ways to show your love besides financial self-sacrifice?

If so, please say “Yes” out loud now.

Imagine light shining from the center of your heart. Let it beam up into your brain and fill it with ideas for showing love to your loved ones.

Note down any ideas that come up. Make those ideas the basis of your gift list.

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2. Bail on bribery

If your bankroll is getting small, reconsider giving lavish gifts to those whose love or approval you are trying to win.

Love and approval that can be bought rarely lasts. The debt you accrue will hang on, piling up interest, until it’s paid.

Would you like your Higher Power to show you all the other ways to gain love and approval besides trying to buy it?

If so, please say “Yes” out loud now.

Picture light coming down through the top of your head and filling every cell of your body with warm, loving illumination.

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Note down any ideas that come to mind. Keep them handy.

3. Lift the burden

If your loved ones are struggling financially, like you, consider suggesting everyone can exchange greeting cards instead of gifts.

Imagine the rejoicing if you let your loved ones off the hook from having to spend money they haven’t got. What a priceless gift!

Would you like your Higher Power to show you all the ways to have a wonderful holiday besides overspending?

If so, please say “Yes” out loud now.

Breathe in pure white light. If you don’t know how, just pretend you’re breathing in white light.

Breathe out white light, allowing it to carry away all your woes and worries. Imagine them floating away, like balloons soaring into the sky.

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Picture the worries being replaced by whatever you want and need most. Sense your muscles relaxing into allowing your needs to be met now.

4. Keep it simple

If you feel you must give something, consider giving simple gifts like these:

Make gifts by hand: Bake sugar cookies and decorate them. Knit a scarf. Make chocolates, scrapbooks, tamales, candles, gingerbread houses, latkes … use your imagination.

Give of yourself: Offer to clean out a closet, organize a junk drawer, catch up over lunch, set up a smartphone … notice what needs to be done, and offer to do it.

Donate: Give money to your loved ones’ favorite charity: Red Cross, cancer research, animal shelter – whatever cause is close to their heart. You will spread love and light to all those touched by your generosity, even if it’s just a few dollars. You never know what will make a difference.

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5. Reconnect with the Spirit of the Season

Whatever you give, give it with love.

As you fill out your cards, place each card between your hands and bless it. Bless the one who will receive it. The recipient will feel your love, and that is the greatest gift of all.

As you wrap your gifts, take each present in your hands and bless it. Bless the one who will receive it. The person you give it to will feel your love, and both of you will be blessed.

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I hope you find these tips helpful, my dear! If so, would you kindly share them with your friends? Thank you!

We’ll see you next week with some tips to help you handle feelings of grief and loss that feel sharper during the holidays.

Get More Help Surviving the Holidays at www.AbundanceHealingCircle.com

In the meantime …

Happy Holidays to You and Yours!

 

Video: How to Super-Size Your Stress Over the Holidays

You may be making your holiday stress worse, without realizing it. Watch this to find out how to ease up on yourself.

If the holidays stress you out, you are not alone.

Help is here:

If you want more support to survive the holidays, check this out.

In the meantime, wishing you a joyful holiday season, however you spend it.

Much love and many blessings to you!

6 Ways to Sidestep Holiday Fatigue

If the holidays drain your energy, check out these tips.

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Here’s the bottom line:

No one is going to take you by the hand and say, “Hey, you’re overdoing it. Take a break, will you?”

So, if you want to avoid keeling over from exhaustion, you need to add breaks to your day. Every day.

If in doubt, remember this: You are allowed to protect and hold sacred your precious personal time and energy.

Try these 6 tips if you’re too wrapped up in your holiday to-do list to relax.

Body by-mari-lezhava-2656471) Pay Attention to Your Body

If you’re thirsty, drink some water.

If you’re hungry, eat something nourishing.

If you’re tired, take time to rest.

2) Take Time to Breathe

Slowly breathe in peace.

Slowly breathe out chaos.

If you don’t know how to do that, just imagine that you’re breathing in peace and breathing out chaos. Repeat 3 times. Do as often as needed.

Writing by-cathryn-lavery-678523) List Tasks You Must Do, in order of importance and urgency.

Do each task mindfully, giving it your entire attention until it’s finished. Focusing on one thing at a time reduces brain fatigue.

4) List Tasks You Can Delegate

Hand off those tasks to others, and hand them off completely. Avoid micromanaging your helpers.

Let them do things their way. The results may delight you.

5) List Tasks You’re Not Sure Are Necessary

Skip doing those tasks and see what happens this time. If anyone notices, smile and shrug – “Hey, I ran out of time. How about if you do it next year?”

Yoga by-emily-sea-1986896) Schedule Breaks

If you’re one of those people who only gets something done if it’s on your calendar – add breaks to your calendar, and take them.

Set a timer during your break so you don’t need to watch the clock. It will help you relax more fully in the time allotted.

Nap.

Stretch.

Walk in nature.

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Bonus Tip

Reconnect with the spirit of the season

In many faith traditions, this time of year celebrates the miracle of light coming forth during the darkest days of the year in the Northern Hemisphere.

Whether you honor that light as a person, an earthly event, or a happening in the heavens – that light dwells within you, as well.

If you look for that light, you will find it, because nothing can extinguish it. It is eternal and unchanging.

And so the light in me bows to the light in you. Blessed be.

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I hope you find these tips helpful, my friend! If so, would you kindly share it with your friends? Thank you!

We’ll see you next week with some tips to help you avoid drowning in holiday debt.

Get more help surviving the holidays at www.AbundanceHealingCircle.com

In the meantime, happy holidays to you and yours!