How to Have a Terrible Time at a Family Gathering

If you want to take the torture out of family gatherings, try these tips

You are not alone in your anxiety about spending time with your family over the holidays.

Help is here.

If you want more support to survive the holidays, check this out.

In the meantime, wishing you a fabulous Thanksgiving, however you spend it.

Whether you celebrate Thanksgiving or not – I am thankful for YOU!

 

 

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3 Tips for Surviving Your Family Gathering

If you dread spending time with your family over the holidays, check this out

We all know the holidays are supposed to be a time of warmth and laughter … of joyful gatherings with family and friends …

And I hope that’s true for you, my dear.

But what if the holidays are not joyful for you?
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What if your past experiences of the holidays make you feel anxious about seeing your family this time of year?

Like any sane person, you dread the prospect of spending time with dreadful people who happen to be related to you.

Look, it would be kind of weird if you enjoyed being tortured in the name of holiday cheer.

Here’s the thing

You can’t do anything about the way your family members behave, short of calling the cops and having them hauled off to jail.

What you can do is change the way you think about your family members, so you can enjoy the enjoyable folks without letting the others spoil your fun.

Changing your mind about your family can be hard to do on your own …

So here are some tips to help you get started.

Do You Expect Your Loved Ones to be Different This Time?

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Do This Instead

  1. Stop judging folks who behave the way they want – instead of the way you want. Respect the right of others to be exactly as they are, even if you think they could stand some improvement.
  2. Ask yourself, “What would happen if, just for today, I accept everyone for who they are?”
  3. Approach each person with an open mind and an open heart. You will feel better, and so will they

Do You Allow Bullies to Back You into a Corner?

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Do This Instead

  1. Prepare to flee as soon as you feel attacked, verbally or physically. Forget hoping the bully will back off. Bullies don’t work that way.
  2. Excuse yourself, saying, “Got to go. I need to make a phone call.” Or whatever. Just get out of there. You do not have to put up with this behavior.
  3. Stay under the radar of the bully. Leave if you must. A party is not the time or place for a showdown. Save it for another time.

Do You Make Being Right Your Top Priority?

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Do This Instead

  1. Respect the opinions of others, however misguided they seem to you.
  2. Ask yourself, “Would I rather fight, or enjoy this time with my loved ones?”
  3. Say, “Let’s agree to disagree. Truce? Can I get you a drink, or something to eat?” Bring them what they want. Enjoy your time together.

I hope you found these tips useful, my friend.

Please know: If you feel like you would be happier, or safer, by staying away from your family, it’s okay to make other plans.

You have the right to protect yourself, whatever your relatives may have told you.

You are officially authorized now to enjoy your holidays any way you wish.

Wishing you a season of light, laughter and love.

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I am thankful for YOU!

Get More Help Surviving the Holidays at www.AbundanceHealingCircle.com

If you’re stressed about seeing your family for the holidays …

You are not alone in your anxiety

Find help and healing here.

Wishing you a joyful holiday season!

How to Have a Terrible Time at a Family Gathering

Check this out if you want a more joyful get-together with your family

How to Have a Terrible Time at a Family Gathering

Find more help surviving the holidays here.

Wishing you a hugely joyful holiday season. You deserve it!

How to Feel Worthy of Abundance 5

If you feel you have to prove your worthiness before you can have love, money, or success – check this out.

Here’s another tip on how to allow Abundance into your life.

If you’re one of the millions of people who believe you have to prove your worthiness before you can have love, money, or success – this tip is for you.

Here’s the deal:

Your ego-mind is the part of you that insists you have to prove your worth before you can have Abundance.

That also happens to be the part of you that will never recognize your worth, whatever you may achieve.

Why is that?

Your ego-mind believes that if you realize you already deserve good things, exactly as you are right now, the ego-mind will lose its ability to dominate you through fear.

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Would it be so terrible if you stopped using fear as a motivator?

What if you could be motivated by love to walk toward the deepest desires of your heart?

Maybe today is a good day for you to know your worthiness can never be proved or disproved, validated or invalidated. It can only be revealed.

How about we do this together?

 

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Put one hand over your heart and one hand on your belly.

Close your eyes …

And take in a deep breath as you say, “I am One with Goodness …”

And let out a deep breath as you say, “And Goodness is One with Me.”

Let’s do this twice more.

Your unconscious mind needs to hear something three times to believe it.

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Again, deep breath in … “I am One with Goodness …”

Deep breath out, “And Goodness is One with Me.”

Once more …

Deep breath in … “I am One with Goodness …”

Deep breath out, “And Goodness is One with Me.”

Good! Notice how you feel. Great job!

If you would like to experience more healing, check out the upcoming Abundance Healing Circle at www.AbundanceHealingCircle.com

It’s an online gathering, so you can join us from anywhere in the world.  I’d love to see you there!

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One reason to share your gifts

If you’ve felt scared of putting yourself out there, check this out.

I’ve written thousands of pages of material around spirituality, abundance and entrepreneurship over the years.

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Spirit tells me I have enough material on my computer’s hard drive right now for five lifetimes.

So why is it sitting on my hard drive, and not out there in the world?

I asked myself this question in meditation:

“I know that resisting putting out this material for people to see and read is absolutely your best idea right now, so …

“Why does it seem like such a good idea to continue sitting on this material?”

I heard:

  • “I don’t know what’s going to happen if I share it”
  • “I don’t want to know what could happen if I share it”

So, I said, yes. You’re right.

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No one knows what’s going to happen if we share it. We don’t know what’s going to happen five minutes from now, much less what’s going to happen if we share our writing with the world.

I also see you don’t want to know what could happen if we share it. That’s fine. Since there’s no way to know what could happen, why would you want to know? Why bother with idle speculation?

This resistance to sharing more of my writing reflects my relationship with uncertainty.

I flat-out hate uncertainty.

As I thought about how much I hate uncertainty, this thought came into my mind:

There is ONE thing that’s certain about sharing my writing with the world.

The odds are 99% that if I put it out there, at least one person will read it someday.

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And maybe, just maybe, it could help them in some way, like:

  • They could think, “Wow, I never thought of that. Maybe I can do what I feel called to do, too.”
  • Something I’ve written could make them feel less alone, because someone else knows how they feel
  • Something in it will inspire them to speak the first kind word they’ve said to their spouse (or their child, their employee, their dog) in a week
  • They could feel inspired to start offering their gifts to the world, too.
  • There are countless other possibilities, but these four are excellent reasons to start sharing more right now.

There is ONE thing that’s certain about continuing to resist sharing my writing with the world:

  1. NO ONE will get the help my work could give them

That thought made me burst into tears.

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The idea that I was withholding something that could help someone filled me with shame and despair.

So, I rushed to reassure that tearful part of me, “I know that was never your intention. You are kindness and goodness itself – you would never knowingly withhold help from anyone.

“That is NOT what you have done.

“What you have done is protect yourself from the uncertainty you hate.

“Yet it’s important for you to see that the effect of what you have done is that people you –and only you – could have helped have had to live without that help. Until now.

“I see you’re grieving over all the wasted years, the wasted opportunities to be of service, the wasted potential – and, yes, that’s sad.

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“Go ahead and feel that sadness and guilt and shame – knowing all that wasted time is over in the moment you realize the effect of your decision to share only a little bit of all you’ve written over the years.

“In that moment of realization, the pattern of sitting on the material, instead of sharing it, starts to dissolve.

“The tide is turning right now, energetically, and you will stop doing the old pattern because it begins to break up the moment you observe it – just as a particle changes when it is observed by quantum physicists. It is the same thing, because everything is energy.

“The particles of withholding love, help, awareness, insight and support are breaking up now and re-forming into willingness to share what you have to give in generous measure.

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“Well done!”

Thank you, Holy Spirit, for inspiring me to write this down and share it on this blog.

And thank you, dear soul, for reading it.

If you would like to share your thoughts in the comment box below, I’d love it!

How to Feel Worthy of Abundance 3

If you believe you have to be perfect before you can have Abundance – this tip is for you!

 

If you’re of the millions of people who believe you have to be perfect before you can have love, money, or success – this tip is for you.

Maybe you’ve noticed the media spotlights people with vast wealth … huge success … marriage to their soul mate – and yet, these people are imperfect.

How can that be, if you’re supposed to be perfect before you can have Abundance?

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It sounds kind of unfair, doesn’t it? And yet, it’s perfectly fair, because each of us is given as much as we will accept – no more and no less.

Abundant people accept themselves as they are. Because they accept themselves, they feel just fine about accepting Abundance. They know their worthiness is a given, rather than a question.

Maybe today is a good day for you to recognize your worthiness is a given, too – it’s as much a part of you as your eyelashes.

How about we do this together?

Put one hand over your heart and one hand on your belly.

Close your eyes …

And take in a deep breath as you say, “I am One with Innocence …”

And let out a deep breath as you say, “And Innocence is One with Me.”

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Let’s do this twice more. Your unconscious mind needs to hear something three times to believe it.

Again, deep breath in … “I am One with Innocence …”

Deep breath out, “And Innocence is One with Me.”

Once more …

Deep breath in … “I am One with Innocence …”

Deep breath out, “And Innocence is One with Me.”

Good! Notice how you feel. Great job!

That’s it for today. I’ll be back soon with another great tip.

In the meantime, remember – you are LOVED!