3 Tips for Surviving Your Family Gathering

If you dread spending time with your family over the holidays, check this out

We all know the holidays are supposed to be a time of warmth and laughter … of joyful gatherings with family and friends …

And I hope that’s true for you, my dear.

But what if the holidays are not joyful for you?
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What if your past experiences of the holidays make you feel anxious about seeing your family this time of year?

Like any sane person, you dread the prospect of spending time with dreadful people who happen to be related to you.

Look, it would be kind of weird if you enjoyed being tortured in the name of holiday cheer.

Here’s the thing

You can’t do anything about the way your family members behave, short of calling the cops and having them hauled off to jail.

What you can do is change the way you think about your family members, so you can enjoy the enjoyable folks without letting the others spoil your fun.

Changing your mind about your family can be hard to do on your own …

So here are some tips to help you get started.

Do You Expect Your Loved Ones to be Different This Time?

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Do This Instead

  1. Stop judging folks who behave the way they want – instead of the way you want. Respect the right of others to be exactly as they are, even if you think they could stand some improvement.
  2. Ask yourself, “What would happen if, just for today, I accept everyone for who they are?”
  3. Approach each person with an open mind and an open heart. You will feel better, and so will they

Do You Allow Bullies to Back You into a Corner?

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Do This Instead

  1. Prepare to flee as soon as you feel attacked, verbally or physically. Forget hoping the bully will back off. Bullies don’t work that way.
  2. Excuse yourself, saying, “Got to go. I need to make a phone call.” Or whatever. Just get out of there. You do not have to put up with this behavior.
  3. Stay under the radar of the bully. Leave if you must. A party is not the time or place for a showdown. Save it for another time.

Do You Make Being Right Your Top Priority?

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Do This Instead

  1. Respect the opinions of others, however misguided they seem to you.
  2. Ask yourself, “Would I rather fight, or enjoy this time with my loved ones?”
  3. Say, “Let’s agree to disagree. Truce? Can I get you a drink, or something to eat?” Bring them what they want. Enjoy your time together.

I hope you found these tips useful, my friend.

Please know: If you feel like you would be happier, or safer, by staying away from your family, it’s okay to make other plans.

You have the right to protect yourself, whatever your relatives may have told you.

You are officially authorized now to enjoy your holidays any way you wish.

Wishing you a season of light, laughter and love.

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I am thankful for YOU!

Get More Help Surviving the Holidays at www.AbundanceHealingCircle.com

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Do family gatherings scare you?

If the holidays feel more like an ordeal than a celebration, check this out.

“So, you came here alone … again.”

“You’re still stuck in that dead-end job, aren’t you?”

“Go help your mother in the kitchen!”

 

It’s amazing…

The way some family members treat you – or ignore you – at a holiday gathering.

Why can’t they say, “Hi! Glad to see you!” or something equally, you know, welcoming?

Who can blame you for dreading family gatherings, when they can feel awkward at best, or agonizing at worst?

What you wish could be the most wonderful time of the year looms in your mind as a series of ordeals to be survived, rather than celebrations to be enjoyed.

Where’s the fun in that?

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Anxiety about family gatherings – or guilt about skipping them, to avoid the agony – can suck the joy right out of your holiday season.

If you would like to change that, come and join “Family Harmony Here and Now.”

This free online healing circle has been created to help you gently release painful memories of past holidays …

Ease anxiety about upcoming gatherings …

Or both.

In this 30-minute guided meditation, we will:

  • Heal the inner child or teenager still grieving over long-ago hurts
  • Help you give yourself permission to spend the holidays the way you want to spend them
  • Guide you to new understanding of family members you would rather avoid, so you can make compassion-based choices about attending family gatherings, rather than choices based on guilt or fear.

We meet online, so you can join us from anywhere in the world … and I hope you do.

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If this sounds good to you, register for this free online healing circle by clicking here.

If you can’t make the live call, go ahead and register anyway so you can get a link to the limited-time replay.

To get the most out of “Family Harmony Here and Now,” please take a moment to answer the questions on the registration form. Not a requirement – just a suggestion to enrich your experience.

Thank you for taking the time to read this, my dear. May the holidays bring all you desire – and more. You deserve it.

How to Feel Worthy of Abundance 3

If you believe you have to be perfect before you can have Abundance – this tip is for you!

 

If you’re of the millions of people who believe you have to be perfect before you can have love, money, or success – this tip is for you.

Maybe you’ve noticed the media spotlights people with vast wealth … huge success … marriage to their soul mate – and yet, these people are imperfect.

How can that be, if you’re supposed to be perfect before you can have Abundance?

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It sounds kind of unfair, doesn’t it? And yet, it’s perfectly fair, because each of us is given as much as we will accept – no more and no less.

Abundant people accept themselves as they are. Because they accept themselves, they feel just fine about accepting Abundance. They know their worthiness is a given, rather than a question.

Maybe today is a good day for you to recognize your worthiness is a given, too – it’s as much a part of you as your eyelashes.

How about we do this together?

Put one hand over your heart and one hand on your belly.

Close your eyes …

And take in a deep breath as you say, “I am One with Innocence …”

And let out a deep breath as you say, “And Innocence is One with Me.”

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Let’s do this twice more. Your unconscious mind needs to hear something three times to believe it.

Again, deep breath in … “I am One with Innocence …”

Deep breath out, “And Innocence is One with Me.”

Once more …

Deep breath in … “I am One with Innocence …”

Deep breath out, “And Innocence is One with Me.”

Good! Notice how you feel. Great job!

That’s it for today. I’ll be back soon with another great tip.

In the meantime, remember – you are LOVED!

Ready to clear self-doubt?

If you’re tired of your brain “protecting” you from reaching your goals, check this out.

Has self-doubt held you back from taking even one baby step toward the life you yearn to live?

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Whatever you are afraid will happen if you take that step – chances are, you can handle it.

How can you trust that?

Why can you trust yourself?

Well, look at all the stuff you’ve already handled in your life.

You’ve endured experiences that would have crushed countless others.

You’ve survived events you felt certain you would never live through – and yet, here you are – thank goodness!

You are a champion, my beautiful friend.

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And yet, self-doubt still plagues you.

Why?

Lots of reasons, including:

  • Childhood programming to see yourself as a victim or weakling
  • Systematic undermining by loved ones (who may, or may not, realize what they are doing)
  • Your own brain’s negativity bias – it’s wired to doubt the positive and trust the negative

Wow. How do you make self-doubt stop?

It’s hard to undo so many levels of programming – nature, nurture, culture, DNA – all by yourself.

The first step

Become aware you’ve been trained to doubt yourself.

The second step

Be willing to step away from the madness that urges you to doubt your worth, your intelligence, and your capabilities.

The third step

You can do it

 

Join us on Tuesday Oct. 10 for the free new online Abundance Healing Circle “Self-Confidence Here and Now.”

In this 30-minute guided meditation, you will experience:

  • Healing of the wounded inner child keeping you scared and stuck
  • Clearing of the blocks to self-confidence your ego-mind created in a misguided attempt to keep you safe
  • New understanding of the experiences that made you lose faith in yourself – so you can forgive yourself and move forward with confidence and joy

If this sounds good to you, click on this link to register for Tuesday’s free online healing circle.

If you can’t make the live call on Tuesday October 10, go ahead and register anyway so you can get a link to the limited-time replay.

To get the most out of “Self-Confidence Here and Now,” please take a moment to answer the questions on the registration form. Not a requirement – just a suggestion to enrich your experience.

Thank you for taking the time to read this, my dear. May Abundance of every kind find its way to you.

 

How to Feel Worthy of Abundance 2

If you feel too damaged to have Abundance, this tip is for you.

Here’s another great tip on opening to receive the Abundance you’re been trying so hard to attract.

If you’re of the millions of people who feel too damaged to have the good things in life, this tip is for you.

Maybe you’re hurting because you’ve been abandoned, attacked, disappointed, injured or sick.

I get it. I’ve been hurt, too, to the point where I lost hope.

In fact, I ran from hope. It felt like torture, because my fear of disappointment was so great.

Hiding by-caleb-woods-182648 (1)The thing is, pain – physical, mental, or emotional – pain makes children of us all … and our sense of ourselves, of our lives, and of what is possible for us shrinks down, too.

If you’re like most people who are hurting, you close off to your greater yet-to-be because you want to curl up in the seeming safety of a small life.

Maybe today is a good day to remember you are bigger than your brokenness …

How about we do this right now?

Put one hand over your heart and one hand on your belly.

Close your eyes …

And take in a deep breath as you say, “I am One with Wholeness…”

And let out a deep breath as you say, “And Wholeness is One with Me.”

3 Heart by-mayur-gala-487Let’s do this twice more. Your unconscious mind needs to hear something three times to believe it.

Again, deep breath in … “I am One with Wholeness…”

Deep breath out, “And Wholeness is One with Me.”

Once more …

Deep breath in … “I am One with Wholeness…”

Deep breath out, “And Wholeness is One with Me.”

Good! Notice how you feel. Great job!

That’s it for today, I’ll be back soon with another great tip. In the meantime, remember – you are LOVED!

Please share your comments with me. I’d love to know what you think!

Do You Have Shiny Object Syndrome?

This expensive malady can bust your budget …

As Summer winds down, are you pondering a Fall project to bring 2017 to a fabulous finish?

There are so many great programs out there to help you:

  • Write your book
  • Launch your business
  • Begin a blog, podcast, or video series
  • Market your products or services
  • Monetize your message

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So many options.

So little time.

How do you choose what to work on next?

Before you start any new project to build your biz or brand, let me ask you:

Whatever success means to you, how worthy of success do you feel, on a scale of 1 to 10?

Notice the first number that pops into your head.

If it’s “8” or above, you’re good to go. Choose the project that excites you the most – and go for it. Doing what delights you helps you stay the course once the initial excitement wears off.

If it’s “7” or under, file under “Later” the program(s) you’re thinking about joining.

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You’re on the verge of falling into Shiny Object Syndrome – a debt-generating malady that drives you to:

  • Sign up for exciting new programs …
  • Avoid starting or finishing the program …
  • Get distracted by a new Shiny Object …
  • Buy it …
  • Avoid starting or finishing it …

And so it goes, expensively ever after.

What is up with that?

Deep down, you feel unworthy of the success you believe the project will bring you…

So, whether you fear success or failure (or both), you unconsciously sabotage yourself with indecision, distraction (hello, new Shiny Object!), or realizing you must re-pot all your plants before you can concentrate on your new project.

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Sound familiar?

It does to me. I’ve done all those things. How about you?

Here’s the thing. It’s not your fault.

If you’re like me, you’ve cultivated a sense of unworthiness since you were a child, out of a very understandable desire to avoid accusations like, “You’re getting too big for your britches,” “Who do you think you are?” or “How can you be so selfish?”

The great news:

You fell into a trance of unworthiness, and you can come out of it. Self Worth Here and Now

You start waking up the moment you decide to do so.

Then, you consciously own your worthiness so you can get unstuck and keep moving forward.

You may have to own your worthiness several times a day, until you shed your unconscious addiction to self-doubt … but think of the rewards:

  • Authentic self-confidence that empowers you to trust yourself to handle the wonderful people and exciting opportunities attracted by the glowing charisma confidence gives you
  • Deeply rooted self-respect that allows you to set healthy boundaries, so you have the time, energy and focus needed to move toward the greatness waiting to meet you
  • Heartfelt self-compassion that lets you see missteps as bumps in the road, rather than the end of the road, so you can stay motivated to find the Abundance that wants to find you.

If you would like help busting out of Shiny Object Syndrome so you can:

  1. Delight in working on your passion project
  2. Joyfully complete it
  3. Reap the abundant rewards awaiting you as your year ends in victory …

Please join us for the latest Abundance Healing Circle. Get the details here.

Hope to see you there, my dear!

Have you found your way out of Shiny Object Syndrome? Please share with us in the comment box below. Many thanks – and congratulations!

How to Feel Worthy of Abundance 1

If you feel unworthy of love, success, or wealth, this video tip is for you

Here’s a great tip on opening to receive the Abundance you’re been trying so hard to attract.

 

If you’re of the millions of people who feel unworthy of love, success, or wealth – this tip is for you.

Chances are, one reason you feel unworthy is because you’ve done some things you can’t forgive yourself for doing, or failing to do.

I get it.

There are situations I look back on and think, “Geez, that wasn’t my finest hour.”

Listen – you were doing the best you could at the time …

Maybe today is a good day to let go of the guilt and shame that’s been draining your energy and blocking Abundance from coming into your day-to-day life.

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Put one hand over your heart and one hand on your belly.

 

Close your eyes …

And take a deep breath in as you say, “I am One with Forgiveness…”

And let a deep breath out as you say, “And Forgiveness is One with Me.”

Let’s do this twice more. Your unconscious mind needs to hear something three times before it believes it’s true.

Deep breath in … “I am One with Forgiveness…”

Deep breath out, “And Forgiveness is One with Me.”

Once more …

Deep breath in … “I am One with Forgiveness…”

Deep breath out, “And Forgiveness is One with Me.”

Good! Notice how you feel. Great job!

If you notice a change after doing this process, will you kindly share it in the comment box below? It might help others to know what you experienced.

That’s it for today, I’ll be back soon with another great tip!

In the meantime, if you would like to experience more healing around opening to receive the Abundance you have been asking for, click here for more info.