Up, Up and Away

What makes your heart soar?

Young Derek loves Superman comics, movies and TV shows. He’s so crazy about the Man of Steel, he wants to BE Superman.

One of Superman’s coolest powers is that he can fly … so Derek decides he will fly, too.

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He climbs up on the roof, secures his Superman cape (one of Mom’s faded gym towels) and dives into the air, aiming for the big oak tree across the street.

He plops into the hydrangea bush just below his jumping-off point.

Derek’s mother, Susan, glimpses his plunge from the window in her home office. She jumps up and runs into the yard at warp speed to check on her boy.

Susan finds Derek cradled in the bush, more shaken than hurt.

“Honey, what happened? You’re bleeding!”

“I’m the Man of Steel, Mom,” Derek explains. “What’s the big deal about a few scratches? Get me out of here so I can try it again.”

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“Forget it, kiddo. I thought a young man of 7 would have more sense than to jump off a roof, but I guess not.”

Susan checks Derek for bruises and finds none. She extracts him from the bush and sends him into the house to wash, breathing deeply to keep herself from screaming at her son.

“It’s a time-out for you, after you clean up. I want you to think about what you’ve done.”

Moments later, sitting in a corner facing the wall, Derek tries to figure out what went wrong, using one of his real-life superpowers – intelligence.

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“Why didn’t I fly?”

“Is it because I’m a loser, like Tommy said the other day when he beat me up and took my lunch money? No, that’s not it. Tommy is a bully. He’s the loser, not me.

“Is it because I don’t deserve to fly? I don’t see a connection there. What does being deserving have to do with being able to fly?

“Is it because I forgot something? I had everything … no. Wait. I forgot Superman is from Krypton. That’s why he can fly. And I’m from Earth … so … I guess I can’t fly, after all.

“But I want to fly more than anything. I can see myself flying, in my mind. It’s so clear. If I could just draw it, maybe I could …”

“Okay, Derek, time’s up! Did you think about what you did?”

“Yeah, Mom. Do we have anything to draw with, around here?”

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Fast-forward 15 years

Derek sits beaming at his booth at Comic-Con, where hundreds of fans have lined up to meet him – the   world-famous creator of “Dynamic Derek – Boy Genius” comics.

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Much as he loves creating superheroes for DC Comics, his biggest thrill comes from seeing all the boys and girls who love Dynamic Derek.

Knowing he’s inspired them fills Derek with awe and gratitude. It makes his heart soar higher than Superman ever thought of flying.

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Would you like to be like Derek …

Setting aside limiting beliefs like “I’m a loser” or “I’m not worthy,” so you can focus on doing what makes your heart soar?

It can be hard to get out of your own way all by yourself.

The good news is, you don’t have to.

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Come and join this month’s FREE “Fresh Start Healing Circle” to get support in moving forward with clarity and confidence.

In our 30-minute guided meditation, you will:

  • Gently release regrets about the past, while deepening the wisdom you’ve gained
  • Ease your anxiety about the future, so you can take action with confidence and joy
  • Strengthen your self-confidence so you can trust yourself to make good choices as you move forward

Sign up now to get:

  1. Convenient reminders so you won’t miss out
  2. Replay links, so you can gain new insights every time you listen
  3. The power-packed Fresh Start Cheat Sheet, loaded with practical tips you can use right away – or print up and keep handy for when you’re ready to make your move!

Hope to see you there, my dear!

In the meantime, may the New Year bring all you desire – and more! You deserve it.

What makes your heart soar? Please share your thoughts in the comment box below. Thank you!

 

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Why You Can Face 2018 with Confidence

It’s the most natural thing in the world to imagine the New Year will be even more rocky than the old year, when you’re in a “life sucks” state of mind.

If looking ahead with dread makes you feel more prepared for whatever may come in 2018, go for it. Plenty of people prefer to expect the worst, in hopes of avoiding disappointment and the pain of dashed dreams.

Here’s the thing – As a wise man once said, “In life, you don’t get what you want. You get what you expect.” A self-fulfilling prophecy cuts both ways.

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Expect the worst, and you very often get it. Expect the best, and you very often get it.

So, if you prefer to face 2018 with confidence instead of fear, here are some tips to help you make it happen.

Why faith in yourself is justified

  • Did you start something new in 2017?
  • Did you end something that was draining your energy?
  • Did you reach a goal?
  • Did you decide to let someone or something go?
  • Did you jump on an opportunity and ride it out?
  • Did you dodge a bullet?
  • Did you forgive someone?
  • Did you let yourself off the hook from doing something you never wanted to do?
  • Did you give yourself permission to succeed?
  • Did you give yourself permission to fail?
  • Did you make a difference in someone’s life?
  • Did you do something super-fun?

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Whatever happened last year, you have acquired priceless information about what does and does not work for you. About what matters to you, and what doesn’t. About what you value, and what you hold cheap.

This knowledge equips you to make even smarter choices in 2018.

So, now what?

Action Steps

  1. Note your wins. Write down your accomplishments from the past year: the gains; the insights; the healing… The letting go of something unwanted; the overcoming of a challenge; the patient endurance of something that had to be endured; the surrender of the illusion of control over someone or something you can never, ever control.
  2. Savor your victories. Take a moment to re-live and savor the excitement, the relief, or the triumph you felt after each experience. Sometimes, simply surviving an ordeal counts as a victory … over circumstances, and over your own self-doubt.

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3. Recognize you have a lot to be proud of. Consider: Were there any accomplishments you felt sure you would never pull off? And yet, you did pull them off. Congratulations!

4. Light up your brain. Hold each of your shining accomplishments in your mind for a moment, one by one. Imagine gathering them into a glittering bouquet of brilliance.

5. You stepped up before, so you can do it again. Look upon this glowing garland as proof that in 2018, you will be able to be, do and have more than you can imagine right now … just as you did in 2017.

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6. Power it up. Picture yourself placing this light in your heart. Let it guide your steps as you walk into 2018 with confidence and joy.

7. Remember, you never walk alone. Whatever you do, whatever you choose … never think for a moment that you are doing it by yourself. Unseen forces come into play the moment you take action – creating momentum, generating opportunities and helping you over the hard places.

This year, consider praying to your Higher Power as your first response, rather than your last resort … and watch what happens.

There is genius, power and magic in you. Let it shine in the year to come, my dear!

What would you do if you knew you could not fail? Please share your thoughts in the box below. Thank you, and all the best to you!

Video: 3 Ways to Deal with Grief over the Holidays

It’s natural to feel the loss of loved ones more sharply over the holidays.

And it can be hard to handle grief, which can show up as sadness, anger, loneliness, rage against the injustice of a loved one’s passing – even feeling heartsick about a loved one who has not yet passed, but soon will.

Here are some ideas that I hope will bring you a bit of comfort.

If your grief deepens into anguish or depression, please consider seeing your medical practitioner to eliminate the possibility of a physical condition causing some of your emotional turmoil.

If you’re thinking of harming yourself, please call 911 or a suicide hotline. You matter. You are needed. You are loved, even if you feel unloved right now.

Bless you, my dear! Peace be with you.