The #1 Way You Sabotage Yourself

When you stop doing this, amazing things can happen

When Sean turns six years old, he begs for piano lessons.

His father George agrees to hire a teacher on a trial basis for one month.

George listens in as Sean’s fingers touch the keys and slowly play “Chopsticks.”

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When Sean hits a sour note, his father winces. “Can’t even play ‘Chopsticks,’ George mutters to himself. “This will be a waste of money.”

The piano teacher, Mrs. Jones, tells Sean’s parents he had great potential. Sean’s mother Amy agrees to pay for her son’s lessons when George says he will fire Mrs. Jones after her month’s trial has ended.

—–>>> Flash forward to Sean at 18

“Dad, I’ve been accepted into Juilliard!” Sean whoops, waving the letter of acceptance at George.

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“What?! You can’t expect me to pay for that!” George roars.

“You don’t have to! I’ve been given a full scholarship, Dad – you don’t have to pay a dime!” Sean takes his father’s hands as if to lift him up and dance him around the room.

George stays glued to his seat. “What’s the matter with those Juilliard people?” he growls. “Since when do they give out scholarships to kids who can’t even play ‘Chopsticks’?”

—–>>> Flash forward to Sean at 36

“Dad, I just had to tell you the wonderful news!” Sean shouts into his phone. “My opera won the Pulitzer Prize!”

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“No way!” George snarls. “They must have really lowered their standards, giving out Pulitzers to kids who can’t play ‘Chopsticks.’”

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What do you think about a father like George, who keeps throwing Sean’s youthful errors into his face?

Do you think George believes shaming Sean has spurred him to greater heights of accomplishment?

Do you think Sean would achieve less or more if he had his father’s support?

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Do you talk to yourself the way George talks to Sean?

This is the #1 way you sabotage yourself

When you shame yourself, confidence and motivation jump out the window. Inspiration drains away. A part of you dies.

Do you think you would accomplish less or more if you stopped shaming yourself over mistakes you made years ago – or five minutes ago?

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Would you like to stop shaming yourself now?

If so, say “Yes” out loud or in your heart now.

Inhale, taking a deep breath. Imagine pure white light filling the center of your mind, the center of your heart and the base of your spine.

Exhale, imagining the white light spreading out to fill your entire body, being, and field of consciousness.

Good!

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If you would like more help letting go of the self-shaming that sabotages you, let the FREE healing circle “Feel Confident Here and Now” support you in becoming more supportive of yourself, your dreams and your goals.

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  • Release unconscious beliefs like “I am not enough” and “There is something wrong with me,” which defeat you before you start
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[Video] 3 Cool Ways to Find Your Passion

When you connect with your passion, you connect with your true self

Life without passion feels dry and flat.

Life with passion feels juicy and rich.

When you connect with your passion, you connect with your true self … your aliveness … your joy.

If you’ve been feeling discouraged or flat lately, try one of these 3 cool ways to connect with your passion.

Reason #2 Why It’s Hard to Find Your Passion

Too much loss can make you lose faith in life, making finding your passion seem pointless

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It can be hard to find your passion if you have little or no faith in life.

If doubt and disbelief arise when you think about finding and pursuing a passion, chances are you feel too betrayed by life to risk taking a chance one more time.

It’s not your fault

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If you’re like most people, you have experienced loss and suffering time and time again.

To avoid further disappointment, you gave up hoping for anything better.

Closing the door on hope is a normal self-protective practice – until it shrivels your soul and you trudge through your days with nothing fun or good to look forward to.

So, if you can’t find your passion, it may be because you’re afraid to believe again – which is understandable, given your past experiences.

Yet, without passion … without a joyful reason to get up in the morning … you are only going through the motions of living. You are half alive.

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Here’s the bottom line

If you want to find your passion, you need to find a reason to believe again.

If you’re like most people, you feel betrayed by life because things haven’t always gone your way – therefore, you cannot trust life.

This line of reasoning only proves the shortcomings of logic, because it overlooks the bigger picture:

Life is a dynamic process, always on the move. Our planet hurtles through space at more than 500,000 miles per hour.

To expect that life will always go in the direction you want is to invite disappointment.

Instead of declaring life to be bad and wrong because it hasn’t followed your game plan, consider revising your game plan to include faith that whatever happens, you will handle it somehow.

It stands to reason because you’ve handled everything life has brought you, so far. The fact that you are breathing in and out proves that you are strong and smart and brave and lucky, for many people have not lived to see the age you are right now.

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Want some healings around this?

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Would you like to feel loved and supported by Life now, and going forward?

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Imagine rainbow light sparkling through all dimensions of your body, mind, heart, and soul.

Notice how you feel.

Good job! Thank you!

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Would you like to find your passion, so you can enjoy more fun and freedom in your life?

It can be hard to step out of the prison of self-protective doubt and disbelief all by yourself.

The good news is, you don’t have to.

Join this month’s FREE “Find Your Passion” Healing Circle to get support in finding your passion and expressing it in ways that fill you with joy.

We meet Tuesday, February 13 at 5 p.m. Pacific Time online and by phone, so you can join us from anywhere in the world … and I would love it if you do.

In our 30-minute guided meditation, you will:

  • Discover your passion so you can experience more freedom, fun and fulfillment right away
  • Gain clarity about your passion, so you can take steps to add more joy to your daily life
  • Connect with the gifts your soul came here to share, so your life takes on greater depth and meaning

If this sounds good to you, click on the link here to register for this free online healing circle.

If you can’t make the live call, go ahead and register anyway so you can get a link to the limited-time replay.

To get the most out of the “Find Your Passion” healing circle, please take a moment to answer the questions on the registration form. Not a requirement – just a suggestion to enrich your experience.

Thank you for taking the time to read this, my dear friend.

May this day bring you many delightful surprises!

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Reason #1 Why It’s Hard to Find Your Passion

If you feel bored or flat most of the time, check this out

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It can be hard to find your passion if nothing arouses your interest for more than five minutes or so.

If you tend to feel bored, flat, or numb most of the time, chances are you’re emotionally shut down.
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It’s not your fault 

If you’re like most people, you have suffered more pain in your life than you can handle.

To survive, you deadened your emotions so you could function in your daily life.

An emotional shutdown is a normal self-protective practice – until it takes over the shop, when that numbness armors you against joy and love, as well as pain because you can’t feel anything.

So, if you can’t find your passion, it may be because you’ve lost touch with your feelings. Strong emotion is what signals –> Your Passion Here <–


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Here’s the bottom line 

If you want to find your passion, you need to reconnect with your emotions.

Naturally, you’re not going to allow yourself to feel anything until you feel safe: Safe to feel; safe to breathe; safe to move around in the world.

If you’re like most people, you have no idea what it feels like to feel safe – which is why feeling your feelings seems so scary, because an emotionally shut-down person figures feelings = pain. Who wants that?

The thing is, your range of emotions also includes love, joy, and peace. None of these blessings can touch you until you awaken your emotions again.

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Want some help with that?

  • Would you like your Higher Power to show you why it is safe for you to feel safe now?
  • Would you like to know what it feels like to feel safe in your body … in your life … in the world around you?
  • Would you like to know why it is safe for you, and safe for others, for you to feel your feelings now?
  • Would you like to know how to confidently handle your feelings now?

If you would like these healing downloads, please say “Yes” out loud now.

Imagine brilliant white light shining down through your crown chakra and filling your body.

Notice how you feel.

Good job! Thank you!

Click here to listen to this healing meditation

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Would you like to experience more healings to help you find your passion?

If so, please join us for the FREE “Find Your Passion” healing circle on Tuesday, February 13, 2018.

We meet at 5 p.m. Pacific Time online and by phone, so you can hang out with us from anywhere in the world … and I would love it if you do.

In this 30-minute healing meditation, you will:

  • Discover your passion so you can experience more freedom, fun, and fulfillment right away
  • Gain clarity about your passion so you can take steps to add more joy to your daily life
  • Connect with the gifts your soul came here to share, so your life takes on greater depth and meaning

If you can’t make the live call, sign up anyway so you can get a link to the limited-time replay.

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To get the most out of the “Find Your Passion” healing circle, please take a moment to answer the questions on the registration form. Not a requirement – just a suggestion to enrich your experience.
Thank you for taking the time to read this, my dear friend.
May this month bring all you desire – and more. You deserve it.
In the meantime, wishing you a delightful day!