3 Tips for Surviving Your Family Gathering

If you dread spending time with your family over the holidays, check this out

We all know the holidays are supposed to be a time of warmth and laughter … of joyful gatherings with family and friends …

And I hope that’s true for you, my dear.

But what if the holidays are not joyful for you?
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What if your past experiences of the holidays make you feel anxious about seeing your family this time of year?

Like any sane person, you dread the prospect of spending time with dreadful people who happen to be related to you.

Look, it would be kind of weird if you enjoyed being tortured in the name of holiday cheer.

Here’s the thing

You can’t do anything about the way your family members behave, short of calling the cops and having them hauled off to jail.

What you can do is change the way you think about your family members, so you can enjoy the enjoyable folks without letting the others spoil your fun.

Changing your mind about your family can be hard to do on your own …

So here are some tips to help you get started.

Do You Expect Your Loved Ones to be Different This Time?

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Do This Instead

  1. Stop judging folks who behave the way they want – instead of the way you want. Respect the right of others to be exactly as they are, even if you think they could stand some improvement.
  2. Ask yourself, “What would happen if, just for today, I accept everyone for who they are?”
  3. Approach each person with an open mind and an open heart. You will feel better, and so will they

Do You Allow Bullies to Back You into a Corner?

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Do This Instead

  1. Prepare to flee as soon as you feel attacked, verbally or physically. Forget hoping the bully will back off. Bullies don’t work that way.
  2. Excuse yourself, saying, “Got to go. I need to make a phone call.” Or whatever. Just get out of there. You do not have to put up with this behavior.
  3. Stay under the radar of the bully. Leave if you must. A party is not the time or place for a showdown. Save it for another time.

Do You Make Being Right Your Top Priority?

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Do This Instead

  1. Respect the opinions of others, however misguided they seem to you.
  2. Ask yourself, “Would I rather fight, or enjoy this time with my loved ones?”
  3. Say, “Let’s agree to disagree. Truce? Can I get you a drink, or something to eat?” Bring them what they want. Enjoy your time together.

I hope you found these tips useful, my friend.

Please know: If you feel like you would be happier, or safer, by staying away from your family, it’s okay to make other plans.

You have the right to protect yourself, whatever your relatives may have told you.

You are officially authorized now to enjoy your holidays any way you wish.

Wishing you a season of light, laughter and love.

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I am thankful for YOU!

Get More Help Surviving the Holidays at www.AbundanceHealingCircle.com

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If you’re stressed about seeing your family for the holidays …

You are not alone in your anxiety

Find help and healing here.

Wishing you a joyful holiday season!

How to Have a Terrible Time at a Family Gathering

Check this out if you want a more joyful get-together with your family

How to Have a Terrible Time at a Family Gathering

Find more help surviving the holidays here.

Wishing you a hugely joyful holiday season. You deserve it!

How to Feel Worthy of Abundance 5

If you feel you have to prove your worthiness before you can have love, money, or success – check this out.

Here’s another tip on how to allow Abundance into your life.

If you’re one of the millions of people who believe you have to prove your worthiness before you can have love, money, or success – this tip is for you.

Here’s the deal:

Your ego-mind is the part of you that insists you have to prove your worth before you can have Abundance.

That also happens to be the part of you that will never recognize your worth, whatever you may achieve.

Why is that?

Your ego-mind believes that if you realize you already deserve good things, exactly as you are right now, the ego-mind will lose its ability to dominate you through fear.

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Would it be so terrible if you stopped using fear as a motivator?

What if you could be motivated by love to walk toward the deepest desires of your heart?

Maybe today is a good day for you to know your worthiness can never be proved or disproved, validated or invalidated. It can only be revealed.

How about we do this together?

 

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Put one hand over your heart and one hand on your belly.

Close your eyes …

And take in a deep breath as you say, “I am One with Goodness …”

And let out a deep breath as you say, “And Goodness is One with Me.”

Let’s do this twice more.

Your unconscious mind needs to hear something three times to believe it.

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Again, deep breath in … “I am One with Goodness …”

Deep breath out, “And Goodness is One with Me.”

Once more …

Deep breath in … “I am One with Goodness …”

Deep breath out, “And Goodness is One with Me.”

Good! Notice how you feel. Great job!

If you would like to experience more healing, check out the upcoming Abundance Healing Circle at www.AbundanceHealingCircle.com

It’s an online gathering, so you can join us from anywhere in the world.  I’d love to see you there!

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Do family gatherings scare you?

If the holidays feel more like an ordeal than a celebration, check this out.

“So, you came here alone … again.”

“You’re still stuck in that dead-end job, aren’t you?”

“Go help your mother in the kitchen!”

 

It’s amazing…

The way some family members treat you – or ignore you – at a holiday gathering.

Why can’t they say, “Hi! Glad to see you!” or something equally, you know, welcoming?

Who can blame you for dreading family gatherings, when they can feel awkward at best, or agonizing at worst?

What you wish could be the most wonderful time of the year looms in your mind as a series of ordeals to be survived, rather than celebrations to be enjoyed.

Where’s the fun in that?

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Anxiety about family gatherings – or guilt about skipping them, to avoid the agony – can suck the joy right out of your holiday season.

If you would like to change that, come and join “Family Harmony Here and Now.”

This free online healing circle has been created to help you gently release painful memories of past holidays …

Ease anxiety about upcoming gatherings …

Or both.

In this 30-minute guided meditation, we will:

  • Heal the inner child or teenager still grieving over long-ago hurts
  • Help you give yourself permission to spend the holidays the way you want to spend them
  • Guide you to new understanding of family members you would rather avoid, so you can make compassion-based choices about attending family gatherings, rather than choices based on guilt or fear.

We meet online, so you can join us from anywhere in the world … and I hope you do.

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If this sounds good to you, register for this free online healing circle by clicking here.

If you can’t make the live call, go ahead and register anyway so you can get a link to the limited-time replay.

To get the most out of “Family Harmony Here and Now,” please take a moment to answer the questions on the registration form. Not a requirement – just a suggestion to enrich your experience.

Thank you for taking the time to read this, my dear. May the holidays bring all you desire – and more. You deserve it.

How to Feel Worthy of Abundance 3

If you believe you have to be perfect before you can have Abundance – this tip is for you!

 

If you’re of the millions of people who believe you have to be perfect before you can have love, money, or success – this tip is for you.

Maybe you’ve noticed the media spotlights people with vast wealth … huge success … marriage to their soul mate – and yet, these people are imperfect.

How can that be, if you’re supposed to be perfect before you can have Abundance?

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It sounds kind of unfair, doesn’t it? And yet, it’s perfectly fair, because each of us is given as much as we will accept – no more and no less.

Abundant people accept themselves as they are. Because they accept themselves, they feel just fine about accepting Abundance. They know their worthiness is a given, rather than a question.

Maybe today is a good day for you to recognize your worthiness is a given, too – it’s as much a part of you as your eyelashes.

How about we do this together?

Put one hand over your heart and one hand on your belly.

Close your eyes …

And take in a deep breath as you say, “I am One with Innocence …”

And let out a deep breath as you say, “And Innocence is One with Me.”

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Let’s do this twice more. Your unconscious mind needs to hear something three times to believe it.

Again, deep breath in … “I am One with Innocence …”

Deep breath out, “And Innocence is One with Me.”

Once more …

Deep breath in … “I am One with Innocence …”

Deep breath out, “And Innocence is One with Me.”

Good! Notice how you feel. Great job!

That’s it for today. I’ll be back soon with another great tip.

In the meantime, remember – you are LOVED!

Ready to clear self-doubt?

If you’re tired of your brain “protecting” you from reaching your goals, check this out.

Has self-doubt held you back from taking even one baby step toward the life you yearn to live?

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Whatever you are afraid will happen if you take that step – chances are, you can handle it.

How can you trust that?

Why can you trust yourself?

Well, look at all the stuff you’ve already handled in your life.

You’ve endured experiences that would have crushed countless others.

You’ve survived events you felt certain you would never live through – and yet, here you are – thank goodness!

You are a champion, my beautiful friend.

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And yet, self-doubt still plagues you.

Why?

Lots of reasons, including:

  • Childhood programming to see yourself as a victim or weakling
  • Systematic undermining by loved ones (who may, or may not, realize what they are doing)
  • Your own brain’s negativity bias – it’s wired to doubt the positive and trust the negative

Wow. How do you make self-doubt stop?

It’s hard to undo so many levels of programming – nature, nurture, culture, DNA – all by yourself.

The first step

Become aware you’ve been trained to doubt yourself.

The second step

Be willing to step away from the madness that urges you to doubt your worth, your intelligence, and your capabilities.

The third step

You can do it

 

Join us on Tuesday Oct. 10 for the free new online Abundance Healing Circle “Self-Confidence Here and Now.”

In this 30-minute guided meditation, you will experience:

  • Healing of the wounded inner child keeping you scared and stuck
  • Clearing of the blocks to self-confidence your ego-mind created in a misguided attempt to keep you safe
  • New understanding of the experiences that made you lose faith in yourself – so you can forgive yourself and move forward with confidence and joy

If this sounds good to you, click on this link to register for Tuesday’s free online healing circle.

If you can’t make the live call on Tuesday October 10, go ahead and register anyway so you can get a link to the limited-time replay.

To get the most out of “Self-Confidence Here and Now,” please take a moment to answer the questions on the registration form. Not a requirement – just a suggestion to enrich your experience.

Thank you for taking the time to read this, my dear. May Abundance of every kind find its way to you.