How to Have a Terrible Time at a Family Gathering

If you want to take the torture out of family gatherings, try these tips

You are not alone in your anxiety about spending time with your family over the holidays.

Help is here.

If you want more support to survive the holidays, check this out.

In the meantime, wishing you a fabulous Thanksgiving, however you spend it.

Whether you celebrate Thanksgiving or not – I am thankful for YOU!

 

 

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3 Tips for Surviving Your Family Gathering

If you dread spending time with your family over the holidays, check this out

We all know the holidays are supposed to be a time of warmth and laughter … of joyful gatherings with family and friends …

And I hope that’s true for you, my dear.

But what if the holidays are not joyful for you?
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What if your past experiences of the holidays make you feel anxious about seeing your family this time of year?

Like any sane person, you dread the prospect of spending time with dreadful people who happen to be related to you.

Look, it would be kind of weird if you enjoyed being tortured in the name of holiday cheer.

Here’s the thing

You can’t do anything about the way your family members behave, short of calling the cops and having them hauled off to jail.

What you can do is change the way you think about your family members, so you can enjoy the enjoyable folks without letting the others spoil your fun.

Changing your mind about your family can be hard to do on your own …

So here are some tips to help you get started.

Do You Expect Your Loved Ones to be Different This Time?

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Do This Instead

  1. Stop judging folks who behave the way they want – instead of the way you want. Respect the right of others to be exactly as they are, even if you think they could stand some improvement.
  2. Ask yourself, “What would happen if, just for today, I accept everyone for who they are?”
  3. Approach each person with an open mind and an open heart. You will feel better, and so will they

Do You Allow Bullies to Back You into a Corner?

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Do This Instead

  1. Prepare to flee as soon as you feel attacked, verbally or physically. Forget hoping the bully will back off. Bullies don’t work that way.
  2. Excuse yourself, saying, “Got to go. I need to make a phone call.” Or whatever. Just get out of there. You do not have to put up with this behavior.
  3. Stay under the radar of the bully. Leave if you must. A party is not the time or place for a showdown. Save it for another time.

Do You Make Being Right Your Top Priority?

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Do This Instead

  1. Respect the opinions of others, however misguided they seem to you.
  2. Ask yourself, “Would I rather fight, or enjoy this time with my loved ones?”
  3. Say, “Let’s agree to disagree. Truce? Can I get you a drink, or something to eat?” Bring them what they want. Enjoy your time together.

I hope you found these tips useful, my friend.

Please know: If you feel like you would be happier, or safer, by staying away from your family, it’s okay to make other plans.

You have the right to protect yourself, whatever your relatives may have told you.

You are officially authorized now to enjoy your holidays any way you wish.

Wishing you a season of light, laughter and love.

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I am thankful for YOU!

Get More Help Surviving the Holidays at www.AbundanceHealingCircle.com

Do family gatherings scare you?

If the holidays feel more like an ordeal than a celebration, check this out.

“So, you came here alone … again.”

“You’re still stuck in that dead-end job, aren’t you?”

“Go help your mother in the kitchen!”

 

It’s amazing…

The way some family members treat you – or ignore you – at a holiday gathering.

Why can’t they say, “Hi! Glad to see you!” or something equally, you know, welcoming?

Who can blame you for dreading family gatherings, when they can feel awkward at best, or agonizing at worst?

What you wish could be the most wonderful time of the year looms in your mind as a series of ordeals to be survived, rather than celebrations to be enjoyed.

Where’s the fun in that?

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Anxiety about family gatherings – or guilt about skipping them, to avoid the agony – can suck the joy right out of your holiday season.

If you would like to change that, come and join “Family Harmony Here and Now.”

This free online healing circle has been created to help you gently release painful memories of past holidays …

Ease anxiety about upcoming gatherings …

Or both.

In this 30-minute guided meditation, we will:

  • Heal the inner child or teenager still grieving over long-ago hurts
  • Help you give yourself permission to spend the holidays the way you want to spend them
  • Guide you to new understanding of family members you would rather avoid, so you can make compassion-based choices about attending family gatherings, rather than choices based on guilt or fear.

We meet online, so you can join us from anywhere in the world … and I hope you do.

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If this sounds good to you, register for this free online healing circle by clicking here.

If you can’t make the live call, go ahead and register anyway so you can get a link to the limited-time replay.

To get the most out of “Family Harmony Here and Now,” please take a moment to answer the questions on the registration form. Not a requirement – just a suggestion to enrich your experience.

Thank you for taking the time to read this, my dear. May the holidays bring all you desire – and more. You deserve it.

Ready to clear self-doubt?

If you’re tired of your brain “protecting” you from reaching your goals, check this out.

Has self-doubt held you back from taking even one baby step toward the life you yearn to live?

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Whatever you are afraid will happen if you take that step – chances are, you can handle it.

How can you trust that?

Why can you trust yourself?

Well, look at all the stuff you’ve already handled in your life.

You’ve endured experiences that would have crushed countless others.

You’ve survived events you felt certain you would never live through – and yet, here you are – thank goodness!

You are a champion, my beautiful friend.

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And yet, self-doubt still plagues you.

Why?

Lots of reasons, including:

  • Childhood programming to see yourself as a victim or weakling
  • Systematic undermining by loved ones (who may, or may not, realize what they are doing)
  • Your own brain’s negativity bias – it’s wired to doubt the positive and trust the negative

Wow. How do you make self-doubt stop?

It’s hard to undo so many levels of programming – nature, nurture, culture, DNA – all by yourself.

The first step

Become aware you’ve been trained to doubt yourself.

The second step

Be willing to step away from the madness that urges you to doubt your worth, your intelligence, and your capabilities.

The third step

You can do it

 

Join us on Tuesday Oct. 10 for the free new online Abundance Healing Circle “Self-Confidence Here and Now.”

In this 30-minute guided meditation, you will experience:

  • Healing of the wounded inner child keeping you scared and stuck
  • Clearing of the blocks to self-confidence your ego-mind created in a misguided attempt to keep you safe
  • New understanding of the experiences that made you lose faith in yourself – so you can forgive yourself and move forward with confidence and joy

If this sounds good to you, click on this link to register for Tuesday’s free online healing circle.

If you can’t make the live call on Tuesday October 10, go ahead and register anyway so you can get a link to the limited-time replay.

To get the most out of “Self-Confidence Here and Now,” please take a moment to answer the questions on the registration form. Not a requirement – just a suggestion to enrich your experience.

Thank you for taking the time to read this, my dear. May Abundance of every kind find its way to you.

 

How to Feel Worthy of Abundance 2

If you feel too damaged to have Abundance, this tip is for you.

Here’s another great tip on opening to receive the Abundance you’re been trying so hard to attract.

If you’re of the millions of people who feel too damaged to have the good things in life, this tip is for you.

Maybe you’re hurting because you’ve been abandoned, attacked, disappointed, injured or sick.

I get it. I’ve been hurt, too, to the point where I lost hope.

In fact, I ran from hope. It felt like torture, because my fear of disappointment was so great.

Hiding by-caleb-woods-182648 (1)The thing is, pain – physical, mental, or emotional – pain makes children of us all … and our sense of ourselves, of our lives, and of what is possible for us shrinks down, too.

If you’re like most people who are hurting, you close off to your greater yet-to-be because you want to curl up in the seeming safety of a small life.

Maybe today is a good day to remember you are bigger than your brokenness …

How about we do this right now?

Put one hand over your heart and one hand on your belly.

Close your eyes …

And take in a deep breath as you say, “I am One with Wholeness…”

And let out a deep breath as you say, “And Wholeness is One with Me.”

3 Heart by-mayur-gala-487Let’s do this twice more. Your unconscious mind needs to hear something three times to believe it.

Again, deep breath in … “I am One with Wholeness…”

Deep breath out, “And Wholeness is One with Me.”

Once more …

Deep breath in … “I am One with Wholeness…”

Deep breath out, “And Wholeness is One with Me.”

Good! Notice how you feel. Great job!

That’s it for today, I’ll be back soon with another great tip. In the meantime, remember – you are LOVED!

Please share your comments with me. I’d love to know what you think!

The #1 Cause of Stress and Suffering

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Do any of these thoughts sound familiar?

“If he cared about me, he would show up on time!”

“What idiot is holding up the traffic? I’m running late! Get moving, people!”

“Another night in front of the TV with a microwaved dinner … I am so lame …”

Thoughts like these may arise from different situations, but they have one thing in common:

They spring from an unconscious bedrock belief called “Something is Wrong.” 

Because this belief is rooted in nothing real, it creates so much free-floating anxiety that even the tiniest bump in the road triggers your brain’s stress response; and leaves you suffering from exhaustion, irritability, and resentment that life is so freaking hard.

We can start healing your body, mind, heart and soul from the effects of stress and suffering right now, if you wish.

Would like your Higher Power to …

  • Show you the true nature and purpose of life, so you can peacefully release your resistance to it
  • Help you understand why things happen, in a way that makes sense to you
  • Reveal the blessings available to you in every moment
  • Show you what happiness looks like, sounds like, tastes like, and feels like
  • Illuminate your understanding of why you are safe, worthy and ready to touch happiness right now

If so, please say “Yes” out loud now and sense light awakening in every cell of your body and spreading out beyond your skin to the farthest reaches of the galaxy.

Very good!

Notice how you feel.

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relaxation-cool-water-haley-phelps-119782If healings like these help you feel better, you are lovingly invited to join the Abundance Healing Circle “Happiness Here and Now,” where you will experience many such healings.

In this highly interactive online Abundance class, we will do live healings to:

  • Transform the love/hate relationship with life that keeps you stressed and suffering
  • Release the burden of your judgments against yourself and others, so you can easily make a fresh start
  • Set you up for success with a simple, do-able Abundance Activity you can use to continue increasing your happiness

Let’s just imagine …

How much peace of mind will you enjoy when you stop fighting life and feel how much life loves you?

How fulfilled will you feel when your relationships smooth out and become more harmonious?

What new adventures await you as you decide to live your life full-out?

Join our Abundance Healing Circle on August 8 and find out! I would love it if you joined us.

In addition, to support you as we go into deep waters, you will receive a special rate on private sessions with me.

If this sounds good to you, click here for more details and registration.

In the meantime, much love and many blessings to you!

 

Got Change?

Even when life takes you by surprise, you have more power than you think

Here’s a thought from the great American newscaster and cancer survivor Linda Ellerbee:

There are two types of change: the change we choose, and the change that chooses us.

It’s empowering to choose change and see our lives get richer and deeper as a result.

It’s even more empowering, when change chooses us, to choose how we respond to that change.

We can wail and moan and gnash our teeth – or we can find our way to acceptance by asking, “Show me the blessing here. How does this change benefit me?”

Only when we accept a situation can we see it with clarity and compassion, so we can make wise choices about our best next move.

Would you like to know how to do that right now? If so, say “Yes” out loud right now* and feel the energy flowing in through the top of your head.

Now, notice how you feel. Notice what’s different about your life in the coming week. And celebrate it!

That’s your Abundance Activation for today. Wishing you all the best, now and always!

* Seriously. This energetic download will only go in with your verbal permission, because we honor your free will. If you want it, say “Yes.”

What have you done to adjust to an unexpected change in your life? Please share your wisdom with us below! Thank you.